S-ense of direction.
U-nderstanding.
C-ourage.
C-harity.
E-steem.
S-elf-confidence.
S-elf-acceptance.
Thursday, May 31, 2007
Five Rules to be Happy
Rule 1
…..Have the thing you like and enjoy it. But sometimes the thing you enjoy is harmful to your body like sugar to a diabetic or fat to a hypertensive. It seems so simple but rule 1 is not reliable.
Rule 2
...Avoid the things you don't want. Again it seems so simple but What if what you don't want is your own face or your own father?How can you avoid them? Rule 2 is simple but not applicable.
Rule 3
…..Pretend to accept the things you don't like, but how can you if what you cannot accept is your Math. Teacher or your terrible Aunt? So Rule 3 simply will not bring happiness.
Rule 4
…..Put away what you cannot enjoy, cannot avoid and cannot accept.Yes, if it is not your face or your brother or your instructor or your own voice or complexion. Rule 4 is useless, it seems.
Rule 5
..…Yes, I promise you 5 rules and rule 5 says change your mental attitude and you will learn to enjoy without necessarily avoiding,accepting or putting away people, events or places that can make you happy.
…..Have the thing you like and enjoy it. But sometimes the thing you enjoy is harmful to your body like sugar to a diabetic or fat to a hypertensive. It seems so simple but rule 1 is not reliable.
Rule 2
...Avoid the things you don't want. Again it seems so simple but What if what you don't want is your own face or your own father?How can you avoid them? Rule 2 is simple but not applicable.
Rule 3
…..Pretend to accept the things you don't like, but how can you if what you cannot accept is your Math. Teacher or your terrible Aunt? So Rule 3 simply will not bring happiness.
Rule 4
…..Put away what you cannot enjoy, cannot avoid and cannot accept.Yes, if it is not your face or your brother or your instructor or your own voice or complexion. Rule 4 is useless, it seems.
Rule 5
..…Yes, I promise you 5 rules and rule 5 says change your mental attitude and you will learn to enjoy without necessarily avoiding,accepting or putting away people, events or places that can make you happy.
Building the Best in People
B-uild allowances for storm (expect problems to come)
E-xpect the best from people (look for the good qualities)
S-tudy other people's needs (Find out what they lack)
T-Thank and approve achievements (give rewards)
I-f with you, climb his wagon (give praise for work well done)
N-ote and allow competition (it is a healthy practice)
P-ositive and negative reinforcement ( use all assets)
E-xcelent standard to be expected (follow the rules)
O-wn motivation must be high ( good role model)
P-remium on collaboration (importance of teamwork)
L-ow failure environment (avoid blundering)
E-ncourage success (set a goal)
E-xpect the best from people (look for the good qualities)
S-tudy other people's needs (Find out what they lack)
T-Thank and approve achievements (give rewards)
I-f with you, climb his wagon (give praise for work well done)
N-ote and allow competition (it is a healthy practice)
P-ositive and negative reinforcement ( use all assets)
E-xcelent standard to be expected (follow the rules)
O-wn motivation must be high ( good role model)
P-remium on collaboration (importance of teamwork)
L-ow failure environment (avoid blundering)
E-ncourage success (set a goal)
Wednesday, May 30, 2007
Signs of Failure
F-rustration and hopelessness.
A-ggresiveness (misdirected).
I-nsecurity.
L-oneliness.
U-ncertainty.
R-esentment.
E-mptiness.
A-ggresiveness (misdirected).
I-nsecurity.
L-oneliness.
U-ncertainty.
R-esentment.
E-mptiness.
Primers on Drugs
Hazards of Drugs
D- Dangerous to health.
R- Robs your future away.
U- Unfits you to live
G- Gives you a lot of troubles.
S- Separates you from others.
Drug victim's personality
D- Dirty all over.
R- Rugged & untidy.
U- Unreasonable usually.
G- Groggy often.
S- Senseless & uncooperative.
Ways to prevent Drug Addiction
D- Don't try drugs.
R- Refuse any offers of drugs.
U- Understand the dangers.
G- Go away from it.
S- Save your future and your life.
D- Dangerous to health.
R- Robs your future away.
U- Unfits you to live
G- Gives you a lot of troubles.
S- Separates you from others.
Drug victim's personality
D- Dirty all over.
R- Rugged & untidy.
U- Unreasonable usually.
G- Groggy often.
S- Senseless & uncooperative.
Ways to prevent Drug Addiction
D- Don't try drugs.
R- Refuse any offers of drugs.
U- Understand the dangers.
G- Go away from it.
S- Save your future and your life.
The Rule of Three in a Relationship
A. Three fragile periods in marriage:
1.Period of adjustment- first to second year.2.Period of boredom- third to fourth year.
3.Period of Compatibility- fifth to sixth year.
B. Three DON'Ts in constructive quarreling:
1.Don't insult each other.
2.Don't review past quarrels.
3.Don't change the issue.
C. Three NOTs in discussing problems:
1.Not on waking up.
2.Not on arrival.
3.Not in public.
D. Three T's in Good Relationship:
1.Time for each other.
2.Touch each other
3.Talk to each other.
E. Three main causes of marital disharmony:
1.Money.
2.Emotional immaturity.
3.Sexual incompatibility.
F. Three things to do in case of infidelity:
1.Ask yourself why.
2.Confront erring spouse.
3.Do what is best.
G. Three rules to keep a man: give him sense of
1.Authority through Trust.
2.Strength through Acceptance.
3.Achievement through Appreciation.
H. Three rules to keep a woman: give her sense of
1.Caring through Flattery.
2.Understanding through Listening.
3.Love through Respect.
I. Compatibility test:
1.Understanding the needs of partner.
2.Capability to satisfy partner's needs.
3.Willingness to satisfy partner's needs.
J. Three possible solutions to problems:
1.Change the situation.
2.Change the other person.
3.Change your attitude and opinion.
K. Three A's that support any meaningful person to person association:
1.Acceptance.
2.Approval.
3.Appreciation
L. Three demands of marriage:
1.Sacrifice.
2.Loyalty.
3.Commitment.
M. Three R's for marital harmony:
1.Responsibility.
2.Reason.
3.Remedy.
N. Three natural flow of communal process:
1.Leaving or breaking away original ties with parents.
2.Cleaving by liking, sharing and serving.
3.Becoming one flesh.
O. Three needs of an emotionally healthy person:
1.Physical health.
2.Love.
3.Abundance.
P. Three reminders for things to happen:
1.Desire that it happen.
2.Believe that it can happen.
3.Expect it to happen.
1.Period of adjustment- first to second year.2.Period of boredom- third to fourth year.
3.Period of Compatibility- fifth to sixth year.
B. Three DON'Ts in constructive quarreling:
1.Don't insult each other.
2.Don't review past quarrels.
3.Don't change the issue.
C. Three NOTs in discussing problems:
1.Not on waking up.
2.Not on arrival.
3.Not in public.
D. Three T's in Good Relationship:
1.Time for each other.
2.Touch each other
3.Talk to each other.
E. Three main causes of marital disharmony:
1.Money.
2.Emotional immaturity.
3.Sexual incompatibility.
F. Three things to do in case of infidelity:
1.Ask yourself why.
2.Confront erring spouse.
3.Do what is best.
G. Three rules to keep a man: give him sense of
1.Authority through Trust.
2.Strength through Acceptance.
3.Achievement through Appreciation.
H. Three rules to keep a woman: give her sense of
1.Caring through Flattery.
2.Understanding through Listening.
3.Love through Respect.
I. Compatibility test:
1.Understanding the needs of partner.
2.Capability to satisfy partner's needs.
3.Willingness to satisfy partner's needs.
J. Three possible solutions to problems:
1.Change the situation.
2.Change the other person.
3.Change your attitude and opinion.
K. Three A's that support any meaningful person to person association:
1.Acceptance.
2.Approval.
3.Appreciation
L. Three demands of marriage:
1.Sacrifice.
2.Loyalty.
3.Commitment.
M. Three R's for marital harmony:
1.Responsibility.
2.Reason.
3.Remedy.
N. Three natural flow of communal process:
1.Leaving or breaking away original ties with parents.
2.Cleaving by liking, sharing and serving.
3.Becoming one flesh.
O. Three needs of an emotionally healthy person:
1.Physical health.
2.Love.
3.Abundance.
P. Three reminders for things to happen:
1.Desire that it happen.
2.Believe that it can happen.
3.Expect it to happen.
Choosing a Lifetime Partner (guidelines)
G U I D E L I N E S
P-hysical aspect the external appearance. You don't want to marry someone who looks like a dirty fungus. But this is only skin-deep.
A-ttainment or Educational aspect: it is dangerous to marry a moron or an idiot. A basic education is important.
R-esources or Financial aspect: while this matters, it is not very important as one
-ereditary or Genetic aspect: some traits run strongly in a family from generation to generation and one must be ready to suffer the consequences.
I
-nstinctive or Sexual aspect: sexual compatibility is the sustaining elixir in a successful relationship.
P-ossible consequences: such as in-law problem, serious ailments, third party, etc.
Aside from the possible consequences there are ten important aspects to consider in choosing a lifetime partner. There is no such thing as a perfect score. It is good enough to find six or seven acceptable aspects so long as you are ready to gamble with the remaining three or four. This is where adjustment and maturity play a big role.
P-hysical aspect the external appearance. You don't want to marry someone who looks like a dirty fungus. But this is only skin-deep.
A-ttainment or Educational aspect: it is dangerous to marry a moron or an idiot. A basic education is important.
R-esources or Financial aspect: while this matters, it is not very important as one
-ereditary or Genetic aspect: some traits run strongly in a family from generation to generation and one must be ready to suffer the consequences.
I
-nstinctive or Sexual aspect: sexual compatibility is the sustaining elixir in a successful relationship.
P-ossible consequences: such as in-law problem, serious ailments, third party, etc.
Aside from the possible consequences there are ten important aspects to consider in choosing a lifetime partner. There is no such thing as a perfect score. It is good enough to find six or seven acceptable aspects so long as you are ready to gamble with the remaining three or four. This is where adjustment and maturity play a big role.
Signs of Depression
D-Dampened mood
E-Easy-going feeling (no interest)
P-Psychomotor retardation(slow foot)
R-Repressed appetite (Anorexic)
E-Energy loss (feeling weak)
S-Sleepless with difficulty (insomniac)
S-Sense of guilt (guilt feelings)
E-Erroneous concentration
D-Desire to die (suicidal tendency)
E-Easy-going feeling (no interest)
P-Psychomotor retardation(slow foot)
R-Repressed appetite (Anorexic)
E-Energy loss (feeling weak)
S-Sleepless with difficulty (insomniac)
S-Sense of guilt (guilt feelings)
E-Erroneous concentration
D-Desire to die (suicidal tendency)
The strong power of Needs
A GOOD RELATIONSHIP IS A MUTUAL FILLING OF EACH OTHER'S NEEDS.The force of NEEDS affects our opinion, attitude and viewpoint.
N>Natural Needs=air to breath, water to drink, ground to stand on, etc.
E>Emotional Needs=Food, warmth,security, understanding, etc.
E>Especial Needs=Sexual fulfillment,procreation,sense of self-esteem, etc.
D>Daily (Changing Needs)=Activity,money, vocation, work, vacation, etc.
Strong need when filled = strong relationship (+++)
Weak need when filled = Mild relationship (+)
Strong need when unfilled = Poor relationship (---)
Weak need when unfilled = Mild relationship (-) still tolerable.
Unfilled NEEDS result to parting of ways which lead to stress, anger, resentment (depending upon the strength of the unfilled need).
Loving and lasting relationships are generally those in which THE PARTIES FEED EACH OTHER'S EGO.
N>Natural Needs=air to breath, water to drink, ground to stand on, etc.
E>Emotional Needs=Food, warmth,security, understanding, etc.
E>Especial Needs=Sexual fulfillment,procreation,sense of self-esteem, etc.
D>Daily (Changing Needs)=Activity,money, vocation, work, vacation, etc.
Strong need when filled = strong relationship (+++)
Weak need when filled = Mild relationship (+)
Strong need when unfilled = Poor relationship (---)
Weak need when unfilled = Mild relationship (-) still tolerable.
Unfilled NEEDS result to parting of ways which lead to stress, anger, resentment (depending upon the strength of the unfilled need).
Loving and lasting relationships are generally those in which THE PARTIES FEED EACH OTHER'S EGO.
Tuesday, May 29, 2007
True Love
T-rust: the most important ingredient. That is why love is symbolized by a heart. If there is trust there are no heartaches.
R-aw or fresh: that is why love is represented by a fresh flower, usually a red rose.
U-nlimited: love must continue on and on like a wedding ring that has no end.
E-rotic: without sex, love is dead. A healthy sex is the food of love that makes it survive.
L-ongevity: the staying power as symbolized by the youthfulness of Cupid, the god of love.
O-penness or truthfulness: as represented by the bold nakedness of Cupid.
V-alor or courage: to face the many challenges of life. Note how Cupid always carries his bow and arrow.
E-ternal or everlasting: for love must not die if it is based on trust, always fresh, unlimited, erotic, truthful and courageous.
R-aw or fresh: that is why love is represented by a fresh flower, usually a red rose.
U-nlimited: love must continue on and on like a wedding ring that has no end.
E-rotic: without sex, love is dead. A healthy sex is the food of love that makes it survive.
L-ongevity: the staying power as symbolized by the youthfulness of Cupid, the god of love.
O-penness or truthfulness: as represented by the bold nakedness of Cupid.
V-alor or courage: to face the many challenges of life. Note how Cupid always carries his bow and arrow.
E-ternal or everlasting: for love must not die if it is based on trust, always fresh, unlimited, erotic, truthful and courageous.
The Real Power of Love
L-ook at things with love. Love the warmth of the sun that comforts your body, but love also the cleansing coldness of the rain. Love the light that brightens the pathway, but love the darkness that enhances the glitters of the stars and romance of the moonlight.Love happiness for enlarging your heart, but love sadness for it opens the door of the soul. Love your triumphs and victories for you deserve them, but love the challenges for they give you the chance to succeed.
O-bserve people and love them through your actions. Love the ambitious for inspiring you to achieve, but love the failures too, for teaching you important lessons. Love the rulers for they are human also, but love the poor whose dreams may not come true. Love the old for their experience and wisdom, but love the youth for their beautiful vision. Love the beautiful for their solemn eyes, but love the ugly for their peaceful mind. Love the rich for they are not happy, but love the poor for their divinity.
V-ervalize your love. Praise your enemies and turn them into friends, Understand your friends until they turned to be brothers. Applaud reasonably for gossiping is unfairly.Avoid destructive criticisms but be generous in praising. If you have nothing good to say better just keep silent. If you have reasons to praise don't hesitate to say what you want to say.
E-ffectively reach each one with love. Greet each one and even in silent whisper say:"I Love You". Though unheard, love will shine on your eyes, brighten your face, bring smile to your lips, and reverberate in your voice. Your love shall be felt by all. Simple gestures of goodwill could effectively transmit your love to all concerned.
Of course you cannot give what you do not possess. It is most important that you first love yourself. If you do you will responsibly take care of your physical, mental and spiritual wellbeing. You will prevent your body from indulging in immoral carnal pleasures; you will keep it clean and feed it with healthy foods and in moderation. You won't allow your mind to be tempted by the evil by shielding it with good intentions. You will keep your heart open and allow it to grow big by sharing what you have with others who are in need. Love alone is enough to make you succeed in life.
O-bserve people and love them through your actions. Love the ambitious for inspiring you to achieve, but love the failures too, for teaching you important lessons. Love the rulers for they are human also, but love the poor whose dreams may not come true. Love the old for their experience and wisdom, but love the youth for their beautiful vision. Love the beautiful for their solemn eyes, but love the ugly for their peaceful mind. Love the rich for they are not happy, but love the poor for their divinity.
V-ervalize your love. Praise your enemies and turn them into friends, Understand your friends until they turned to be brothers. Applaud reasonably for gossiping is unfairly.Avoid destructive criticisms but be generous in praising. If you have nothing good to say better just keep silent. If you have reasons to praise don't hesitate to say what you want to say.
E-ffectively reach each one with love. Greet each one and even in silent whisper say:"I Love You". Though unheard, love will shine on your eyes, brighten your face, bring smile to your lips, and reverberate in your voice. Your love shall be felt by all. Simple gestures of goodwill could effectively transmit your love to all concerned.
Of course you cannot give what you do not possess. It is most important that you first love yourself. If you do you will responsibly take care of your physical, mental and spiritual wellbeing. You will prevent your body from indulging in immoral carnal pleasures; you will keep it clean and feed it with healthy foods and in moderation. You won't allow your mind to be tempted by the evil by shielding it with good intentions. You will keep your heart open and allow it to grow big by sharing what you have with others who are in need. Love alone is enough to make you succeed in life.
Monday, May 28, 2007
Three Wishes
I wish I have a telescope, to scan the starry skies,
But since I have no telescope, I am glad I have two eyes.
I wish I have a kitchen run buy push botton command,
But while the kitchen is still a dream, I am glad I have two hands.
I wish I have a supercar, to give my friends a treat,
But till th new car comes along, I am glad I have two feet
Two eyes to look to God above,
The hands to clasp in prayers, two fee to carry me to church,
Those are enough, I am a billionaire.
But since I have no telescope, I am glad I have two eyes.
I wish I have a kitchen run buy push botton command,
But while the kitchen is still a dream, I am glad I have two hands.
I wish I have a supercar, to give my friends a treat,
But till th new car comes along, I am glad I have two feet
Two eyes to look to God above,
The hands to clasp in prayers, two fee to carry me to church,
Those are enough, I am a billionaire.
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