S-ense of direction.
U-nderstanding.
C-ourage.
C-harity.
E-steem.
S-elf-confidence.
S-elf-acceptance.
Thursday, May 31, 2007
Five Rules to be Happy
Rule 1
…..Have the thing you like and enjoy it. But sometimes the thing you enjoy is harmful to your body like sugar to a diabetic or fat to a hypertensive. It seems so simple but rule 1 is not reliable.
Rule 2
...Avoid the things you don't want. Again it seems so simple but What if what you don't want is your own face or your own father?How can you avoid them? Rule 2 is simple but not applicable.
Rule 3
…..Pretend to accept the things you don't like, but how can you if what you cannot accept is your Math. Teacher or your terrible Aunt? So Rule 3 simply will not bring happiness.
Rule 4
…..Put away what you cannot enjoy, cannot avoid and cannot accept.Yes, if it is not your face or your brother or your instructor or your own voice or complexion. Rule 4 is useless, it seems.
Rule 5
..…Yes, I promise you 5 rules and rule 5 says change your mental attitude and you will learn to enjoy without necessarily avoiding,accepting or putting away people, events or places that can make you happy.
…..Have the thing you like and enjoy it. But sometimes the thing you enjoy is harmful to your body like sugar to a diabetic or fat to a hypertensive. It seems so simple but rule 1 is not reliable.
Rule 2
...Avoid the things you don't want. Again it seems so simple but What if what you don't want is your own face or your own father?How can you avoid them? Rule 2 is simple but not applicable.
Rule 3
…..Pretend to accept the things you don't like, but how can you if what you cannot accept is your Math. Teacher or your terrible Aunt? So Rule 3 simply will not bring happiness.
Rule 4
…..Put away what you cannot enjoy, cannot avoid and cannot accept.Yes, if it is not your face or your brother or your instructor or your own voice or complexion. Rule 4 is useless, it seems.
Rule 5
..…Yes, I promise you 5 rules and rule 5 says change your mental attitude and you will learn to enjoy without necessarily avoiding,accepting or putting away people, events or places that can make you happy.
Building the Best in People
B-uild allowances for storm (expect problems to come)
E-xpect the best from people (look for the good qualities)
S-tudy other people's needs (Find out what they lack)
T-Thank and approve achievements (give rewards)
I-f with you, climb his wagon (give praise for work well done)
N-ote and allow competition (it is a healthy practice)
P-ositive and negative reinforcement ( use all assets)
E-xcelent standard to be expected (follow the rules)
O-wn motivation must be high ( good role model)
P-remium on collaboration (importance of teamwork)
L-ow failure environment (avoid blundering)
E-ncourage success (set a goal)
E-xpect the best from people (look for the good qualities)
S-tudy other people's needs (Find out what they lack)
T-Thank and approve achievements (give rewards)
I-f with you, climb his wagon (give praise for work well done)
N-ote and allow competition (it is a healthy practice)
P-ositive and negative reinforcement ( use all assets)
E-xcelent standard to be expected (follow the rules)
O-wn motivation must be high ( good role model)
P-remium on collaboration (importance of teamwork)
L-ow failure environment (avoid blundering)
E-ncourage success (set a goal)
Wednesday, May 30, 2007
Signs of Failure
F-rustration and hopelessness.
A-ggresiveness (misdirected).
I-nsecurity.
L-oneliness.
U-ncertainty.
R-esentment.
E-mptiness.
A-ggresiveness (misdirected).
I-nsecurity.
L-oneliness.
U-ncertainty.
R-esentment.
E-mptiness.
Primers on Drugs
Hazards of Drugs
D- Dangerous to health.
R- Robs your future away.
U- Unfits you to live
G- Gives you a lot of troubles.
S- Separates you from others.
Drug victim's personality
D- Dirty all over.
R- Rugged & untidy.
U- Unreasonable usually.
G- Groggy often.
S- Senseless & uncooperative.
Ways to prevent Drug Addiction
D- Don't try drugs.
R- Refuse any offers of drugs.
U- Understand the dangers.
G- Go away from it.
S- Save your future and your life.
D- Dangerous to health.
R- Robs your future away.
U- Unfits you to live
G- Gives you a lot of troubles.
S- Separates you from others.
Drug victim's personality
D- Dirty all over.
R- Rugged & untidy.
U- Unreasonable usually.
G- Groggy often.
S- Senseless & uncooperative.
Ways to prevent Drug Addiction
D- Don't try drugs.
R- Refuse any offers of drugs.
U- Understand the dangers.
G- Go away from it.
S- Save your future and your life.
The Rule of Three in a Relationship
A. Three fragile periods in marriage:
1.Period of adjustment- first to second year.2.Period of boredom- third to fourth year.
3.Period of Compatibility- fifth to sixth year.
B. Three DON'Ts in constructive quarreling:
1.Don't insult each other.
2.Don't review past quarrels.
3.Don't change the issue.
C. Three NOTs in discussing problems:
1.Not on waking up.
2.Not on arrival.
3.Not in public.
D. Three T's in Good Relationship:
1.Time for each other.
2.Touch each other
3.Talk to each other.
E. Three main causes of marital disharmony:
1.Money.
2.Emotional immaturity.
3.Sexual incompatibility.
F. Three things to do in case of infidelity:
1.Ask yourself why.
2.Confront erring spouse.
3.Do what is best.
G. Three rules to keep a man: give him sense of
1.Authority through Trust.
2.Strength through Acceptance.
3.Achievement through Appreciation.
H. Three rules to keep a woman: give her sense of
1.Caring through Flattery.
2.Understanding through Listening.
3.Love through Respect.
I. Compatibility test:
1.Understanding the needs of partner.
2.Capability to satisfy partner's needs.
3.Willingness to satisfy partner's needs.
J. Three possible solutions to problems:
1.Change the situation.
2.Change the other person.
3.Change your attitude and opinion.
K. Three A's that support any meaningful person to person association:
1.Acceptance.
2.Approval.
3.Appreciation
L. Three demands of marriage:
1.Sacrifice.
2.Loyalty.
3.Commitment.
M. Three R's for marital harmony:
1.Responsibility.
2.Reason.
3.Remedy.
N. Three natural flow of communal process:
1.Leaving or breaking away original ties with parents.
2.Cleaving by liking, sharing and serving.
3.Becoming one flesh.
O. Three needs of an emotionally healthy person:
1.Physical health.
2.Love.
3.Abundance.
P. Three reminders for things to happen:
1.Desire that it happen.
2.Believe that it can happen.
3.Expect it to happen.
1.Period of adjustment- first to second year.2.Period of boredom- third to fourth year.
3.Period of Compatibility- fifth to sixth year.
B. Three DON'Ts in constructive quarreling:
1.Don't insult each other.
2.Don't review past quarrels.
3.Don't change the issue.
C. Three NOTs in discussing problems:
1.Not on waking up.
2.Not on arrival.
3.Not in public.
D. Three T's in Good Relationship:
1.Time for each other.
2.Touch each other
3.Talk to each other.
E. Three main causes of marital disharmony:
1.Money.
2.Emotional immaturity.
3.Sexual incompatibility.
F. Three things to do in case of infidelity:
1.Ask yourself why.
2.Confront erring spouse.
3.Do what is best.
G. Three rules to keep a man: give him sense of
1.Authority through Trust.
2.Strength through Acceptance.
3.Achievement through Appreciation.
H. Three rules to keep a woman: give her sense of
1.Caring through Flattery.
2.Understanding through Listening.
3.Love through Respect.
I. Compatibility test:
1.Understanding the needs of partner.
2.Capability to satisfy partner's needs.
3.Willingness to satisfy partner's needs.
J. Three possible solutions to problems:
1.Change the situation.
2.Change the other person.
3.Change your attitude and opinion.
K. Three A's that support any meaningful person to person association:
1.Acceptance.
2.Approval.
3.Appreciation
L. Three demands of marriage:
1.Sacrifice.
2.Loyalty.
3.Commitment.
M. Three R's for marital harmony:
1.Responsibility.
2.Reason.
3.Remedy.
N. Three natural flow of communal process:
1.Leaving or breaking away original ties with parents.
2.Cleaving by liking, sharing and serving.
3.Becoming one flesh.
O. Three needs of an emotionally healthy person:
1.Physical health.
2.Love.
3.Abundance.
P. Three reminders for things to happen:
1.Desire that it happen.
2.Believe that it can happen.
3.Expect it to happen.
Choosing a Lifetime Partner (guidelines)
G U I D E L I N E S
P-hysical aspect the external appearance. You don't want to marry someone who looks like a dirty fungus. But this is only skin-deep.
A-ttainment or Educational aspect: it is dangerous to marry a moron or an idiot. A basic education is important.
R-esources or Financial aspect: while this matters, it is not very important as one
-ereditary or Genetic aspect: some traits run strongly in a family from generation to generation and one must be ready to suffer the consequences.
I
-nstinctive or Sexual aspect: sexual compatibility is the sustaining elixir in a successful relationship.
P-ossible consequences: such as in-law problem, serious ailments, third party, etc.
Aside from the possible consequences there are ten important aspects to consider in choosing a lifetime partner. There is no such thing as a perfect score. It is good enough to find six or seven acceptable aspects so long as you are ready to gamble with the remaining three or four. This is where adjustment and maturity play a big role.
P-hysical aspect the external appearance. You don't want to marry someone who looks like a dirty fungus. But this is only skin-deep.
A-ttainment or Educational aspect: it is dangerous to marry a moron or an idiot. A basic education is important.
R-esources or Financial aspect: while this matters, it is not very important as one
-ereditary or Genetic aspect: some traits run strongly in a family from generation to generation and one must be ready to suffer the consequences.
I
-nstinctive or Sexual aspect: sexual compatibility is the sustaining elixir in a successful relationship.
P-ossible consequences: such as in-law problem, serious ailments, third party, etc.
Aside from the possible consequences there are ten important aspects to consider in choosing a lifetime partner. There is no such thing as a perfect score. It is good enough to find six or seven acceptable aspects so long as you are ready to gamble with the remaining three or four. This is where adjustment and maturity play a big role.
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